I do not know what is Coinjar, but it does not look like YOUR wallet. It looks like some online wallet/exchange, that is never yours. Which is the problem not because you do not control the coins, but probably also that you can not set the fees accordingly (maybe you can after all, I really have no idea how it works). Best is to have your own wallet aka electrum or ledger nano, where you can set fees not just high or low, but exactly the number sat/byte. The fees you can then set from this chart http://core.jochen-hoenicke.de/queue/#0,8h. No wallet can set the fees correctly. Elon is maybe telling us that AI can drive cars, but since no developer could make a wallet that can estimate the fees correctly, I doubt the Elon cars.
If you sent coins to the address to which you sent the coins as well from other address, it will not speed up the transactions. You can speed it up only sending the coins from the receiving address, where the coins are not yet confirmed.
The weekend is coming, the fees will drop and the tx will go through.
Just follow those steps:
1. Have finally your own wallet
2. ALways check the mempool before you send the coins
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