Looking to link up with a VPS situated in the UK. Support, security, and speed are of paramount importance.

I also admit I do not know what I don't know.

Namely, I am concerned with the following:

I do not want my site bogged down by an attack that may or may not be directed towards my server/site.

I do not want to share anything site / database related with someone else who might not keep their stuff "updated".

I do not want to pay for tons of crap that sounds great on paper but I do not need. Likewise, I would rather pay extra for stuff that I do need but are not listed in the standard "packages". Problem is, I do not know what I do/do not need.

Suggestions, specs, and recommendations are welcome...